How hard is it to say no?
How hard is it to say a No or hear one?
I thought its easy for the other person to say No and tough
for the one who’s hearing it or taking a rejection. I was wrong, its hard for
both the parties, people who are telling you No and the one who is on the other
end hearing a No.
People reading this must be running their minds, ‘Ab kisne
No bol diya? Dosto ne?’
(who said no now, a friend?) specially after my last post of
me writing about feeling lonely and not having many people around.
It’s a difficult post to write as I want to get this thing
out of my heart but still not mention much, because you can only write so much,
having a digital presence is risky, you are associated with so many things,
people related to you, the company you work for, the friends you have. Anyone
can link it to anything. Not that I have 1000 readers.
My wise friend Rabia advised me to be anonymous, also
because I can write more. But I would like to have some readers and being
anonymous, I will have none. It’s difficult to grab people to hear you out or
read what you write if they are not benefiting from anything out of it.
Ok, what you just read was something I wrote 3 months ago, I
wrote it and it was just lying in my drafts and as things repeat themselves,
situations repeat and so does our feelings. And here I am again worrying about
the ‘No’ I just told.
It’s tough being rejected and rejecting someone, with this
whole process I understand there are so many variables you look at when you say
No, it’s not just you or how you qualify, there can be other silly reasons, as
silly as – It didn’t click to me, my heart didn’t feel like it. More than that
I feel - it’s not the right time. But I know that when I hear something that isn't expected, God has better plans for me, he has always rewarded me with the best, better than what I asked for, be it a job or a house, sometimes the decisions I take makes me fall short but the things he pick for me have always been the best, so the way I like to see it is -may it's not the best for me, remember Allah always wants the best for you, he knows what's good for you and what you will like the most, so he will pick what is in your best interest, so it's ok not to feel dejected when you hear a No.
If you are reading it in March of 2020, you know why its not the right time. It’s not the right time to say yes to anything, infact it’s the time to undo all the yes’s you have told in the past, undo the yes for the wedding, to move homes, to change jobs and to travel. Yes, we have been in a complete lockdown past few weeks, thanks to coronavirus but the virus aside, life still keeps moving but the decisions you make in life are hugely impacted by Mr.Corona (not the beer, the virus). The way Coronavirus is spreading right now, I can probably right another 5-10 posts about how it has changed our lives, others lives and our every day activities, but for today I just wanted to finish documenting this weird, guilty feeling you get when you say No.
If you are reading it in March of 2020, you know why its not the right time. It’s not the right time to say yes to anything, infact it’s the time to undo all the yes’s you have told in the past, undo the yes for the wedding, to move homes, to change jobs and to travel. Yes, we have been in a complete lockdown past few weeks, thanks to coronavirus but the virus aside, life still keeps moving but the decisions you make in life are hugely impacted by Mr.Corona (not the beer, the virus). The way Coronavirus is spreading right now, I can probably right another 5-10 posts about how it has changed our lives, others lives and our every day activities, but for today I just wanted to finish documenting this weird, guilty feeling you get when you say No.
1 comment:
I know what you mean. I also struggle with wanting to write public blog, not necessarily publicizing it, but just being open in my corner of the web and catching whatever few readers I get. It's true there's a satisfaction in having your thoughts read by others.
But then I also want to be completely candid because my blog has become my diary so I write some very strong emotions there from time to time lol.
I also understand, no is a difficult word and its not in our vocabulary much. That's why for people like us, its more difficult to say No to people. But like you wrote, its important to have the trust in Allah SWT. That is a good reminder :)
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