It’s been a month since the time our beetle nut came in our lives and our lives changed completely, our priorities changed, the things in our house changed, my YouTube, instagram and Facebook feed changed.
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Friday, April 22, 2022
Starting from scratch
I started writing this post in November last year, its April now, I thought I rather post it than letting it sit in my drafts.
It is been a day we left everything behind and trying to find a place that we can call home.
We moved from our beloved city Chicago, to do better in our jobs in the west coast. We moved to the place I always said no to, when a recruiter would ask me if I am OK for positions in the bay area.
Starting from zero sucks, the first night here felt the way I felt when i moved from India, I have a better quilt and a phone to reach anyone in any corner of the world as compared to what I had when I moved from india back in 2010, but I don't have anything that I'd call my belongings - my bed, my TV, my home. But, I have my husband by my side and my plants that we managed to bring here on our flight with us. It was the same like how we entered this country, packing all our stuff in 2 bags.
I will use this space to put down my house searching stories, so I can go back to this and read about what I sign myself for when I decide to move states, moving apartments and houses, I am pretty used to by now, moving an apartment every 1.5 year ah! but moving states I am scared and nervous of, coz you start from zero and have to find each and everything again, grocery shops, meat wala, your favorites joints of bakeries, coffee, the lady who'd trim my eyebrows 🥴 and restaurants etc and of all people/ friends who I can talk to, in the form of friends, neighbors and acquaintances, finding the former is easier than later.
Anyways, day 1 - we reached our temporary accommodation, dropped our bags and went to say hi to one of siva's friend who lived nearby.
I am not working this week and we thought we will look around places and check the vibe of places. So, we were eager to go see which area siva's friend lives in, because this was the neighborhood we initially thought of living but it would be too far from siva's office, once we knew the location of sivas new job our search engine crashed and we had to focus in a area on other side of the bay called Fremont. Indians get happy when they hear Fremont, because it's little India, all the Indian married people with kids live in this area coz it has a good school district and the rents are a little cheap. So, we thought let's do Fremont, but my brother happened to visit Fremont 2 weeks ago and hated Fremont and told us how dry the place is blah blah and our search engine crashed again.
Siva then started looking for places in the San Francisco and it's suburbs and that was our first day of house hunting. We were excited as we drove through the freeways around mountains and with so much vegetation. We first went to a place on ocean bay, the vibe was excellent and would make you feel like you are on a vacation, everyone in the area was chilled out and very hip. One of my criteria for home is a place where we have some indian community, not a lot but some. In SF and suburbs, all day I kept trying to see if there was any indian community, we only found people in cars but nowhere in the apartments we chose to tour. Also, the units we saw didn't fit even 50% of our liking criteria. We had about 5 appointments made, we saw 3 and skipped two because even the neighborhood or surroundings of the apartments didn't click for us to begin with.
Day 1: We completed our search for apartments in SF and came to a conclusion that our city living in Chicago can't be compared to living in the San Francisco city, we kept homelessness aside, but still nothing matched.
On the way back home we decided to drive by a different city, small but had some charm to it, it was a place called foster city. It had small water bodies, not sure lakes or ponds or shores, but it had parks built around the water body which was nice. So, we started to look apartments in this area, but it turned out that the parks and stores for grocery etc are far away from the residential area and the apartments close to the parks were too expensive, so we left that option too.
On the weekend we thought we will give Fremont a try. We saw 2-3 apartments, the place didn’t have any charm to it, it was dry and felt like people living there had no life or happiness/excitement, I feel this in general about people living in the Bay Area, that they have no life, they work and talk about stocks all day trying to make more money and hike, period.
Within a day or two of moving from Chicago, I understood I made a blunder, I shouldn’t have just decided to move cities just because I wasn’t happy with my work. I don’t know if this will change, but lessons learnt.
Anyways, after searching every neighborhood we moved to a small city called redwood city, north of the silicon valley, it is decent, nothing exciting as compared to Chi town, I will probably move again next year in November and you will see a 'moving again' post then! 😉
Monday, March 15, 2021
Lost in thoughts..
You achieve a lot in life..alhumdulillah to that. You keep praying for months and years for it to happen that one day when you get what you pray for..you will be in content. You will feel the best, you will no longer sit in despair, you will have your next steps planned. You will have that success. But that's not how you feel when you get things you been yearning for years, you feel the floating moment of success and happiness, but still lost in thought and confused about what will happen next?
Tuesday, December 8, 2020
Things Changes..We Change..for Good :)
It’s been sometime I wrote..(how many times do I start my blog with this line?). I wanted to continue writing something I wrote at the airport, but looks like Evernote did not save it and I lost my draft. ☹
Another note I wrote was on my birthday, but I forgot to
publish it. I wanted to post it now..but if you can’t relate to those feelings
at the moment then what’s the point posting about it? Anyways birthdays are awkward
and this year it was rough with siva’s grandpa passing on my birthday due to covid.
I am at home living by myself after a long time. I just got out of my apartment, to see other humans and thought I will sit in the lounge and write for a little bit. Christmas mode is dull this time, but its still there, with Christmas decorations and music playing in the apartment lounge. It’s here where I walk after my heavy meals and when I am bored stuck inside my apartment. I see faces familiar(in masks) - students working on their assignments, doctor doing his paper work, door man/woman.
When I lived alone, I felt I was very organized, I would
come home from work, go to gym. My roommates admired my dedication, they didn’t
know I was doing it to cut time too and not just to lose weight. For a second I
thought did I lose myself? And by the time I went to bed, I realized ‘No.’
What a blessing it is to have a partner, to appreciate each
other’s presence, you need to take breaks like this, where you do your
gratitude list and be thankful for people around you.
Thank you Allah Mia. 😊
Tuesday, September 8, 2020
Stepping into Fall..
The weather is cozy, I usually don’t like weather like this. It’s a little gloomy, but bright. When I was growing up I would usually call it a ‘romantic weather.’ Because all I felt like doing when it was cloudy was to dream and sleep.
Right now, I feel like it’s a Seattle kind of a day or I feel like I am in London. Husband would totally argue if I say so, arguing – ‘if once in 10 days it’s a cloudy day, you can’t say its Seattle kind of a day, sun does come there,’ maybe it does, but that’s not enough sun for me. Doesn’t weather play so much with our feelings? For me it does. But, it feels good to be indoors, back in my sweater, sipping hot tea. It’s been a long long summer this time,I have soaked enough sun, finished two tubes of sun block. We have been at home for more than six months, we all have skilled the polar bear life, though the real test would be now, when the fall starts and soon we will step into winter.
The day has passed, it was a long weekend and its Tuesday today,
I have zero but -1 motivation to work and I blame the weather, but hey I am
writing because of the weather.
I have my favorite song playing , I don’t listen to it just any time, I savor it for moments, for me, each song takes me back to a moment. This song unfortunately takes me back to my school crush. Yesterday I watched ‘Dil se,’ its one of my favorite movies. I remember I used to listen to the audio album so many times while growing up, there are songs I would listen on repeat and this is one of those songs. My parents always thought I was a crazy girl, because I was always indoors with my books, learning, byhearting stuff, I also use to maintain a journal, I did it from 6th Standard to 10th or 11th, then I moved online to my blog and the digital life took me away from penning things down, I regret doing that, I remember often I would read what I wrote and re-live some of the stuff.
Digital space is good, but not good enough, I post things on
Instagram sometimes, but don’t want to come across as a person who shows off,
so a lot of times I would just picture something or try posting it, but then
erase it. I would also not put a lot of things because you never know how
people would see it. There’s happiness, sorrow all kind of feelings one goes through,
but we can only portray a certain character to certain people. I realized, I am
a different person with different people and a completely different person with
some. Sometimes I get confused am I being fake? But I don’t think that’s what
it is, you can only open up so much to some people, things they don’t teach you
about growing up!
When I was growing up dad would bring video cassettes of
movies he grew up watching and try to make us watch it too, we would run away
and think why’s dad so old fashioned? There’s so much new good stuff, why can’t
he watch that? Now, I know..because my playlist and the movies I go back to are
the ones I grew up watching, it has a special place and takes you back in time.
I had so many goals for 2020 and everything went
phew..because God had plans for all of us before we could execute our own, I am
thankful though that I am not effected by the virus. If not anything, I was
more connected with myself than anything during this time, sometimes I really pondered
why am I really here and is there a purpose for me on the earth?
Right now, I just feel like going to the mountains and live
there, America has made life too comforting, I miss waiting for bus and saving
money, in short I miss growing up. If I knew growing up was a path to a
comforting boring life, I would never grow up. Haha! Anyways, yesterday after
watching Dil Se, it reminded me of my forgotten travel destination where I always
wanted to go when I was growing up – Leh and Ladakh. Travelling seems like a
dream now, specially to Kashmir, can I ever go there in this life time? Such a
heavenly place ruined and destroyed by politics. Kashmir was always a dream, I
dreamt Dal lake so many times, the hills and the trucks. If I had to pick
somewhere to be born, it would be in the beautiful Kashmir..with blue eyes..💙
Anyways, this random post is dedicated to my favorite song
and my feelings to it..
Monday, August 17, 2020
Why Smirk?
Aren’t we all going through some life changing shit? If we all are in the same boat then why show so much disagreement or superiority to someone as if you are suffering more than me. Unless you got Corona?
I have been using the community boardroom in my apartment to study, work sometimes, just to get some different scene as we all are working from home. Have to compensate for all the different things we use to have at work right? Meeting rooms, Café, hideouts. So, I use the boardroom for that change in air.
Just
beside the boardroom there’s a yoga room which is equipped with TV and yoga mats
etc; so people come there to work out at times. Today evening, I went to the
boardroom to read and someone had the TV on with loud music doing
exercise. I waited for sometime to see if they will reduce the volume. I am not
someone who likes things if they aren’t supposed to be the way they are supposed to be, I speak up. Not only the person was disturbing me in the
boardroom but the residents in nearby apartment units. So, I went in
knocked the door and then opened the door and asked her if she could reduce the
volume, obviously she couldn’t hear my request, coz she had a video with a
deafening sound On, then she lowered the volume and I requested her the same
again, she lowered the volume with an annoyed face. I didn’t ask her to leave
the room, my request was polite. So, why that face?
I just thought what happened to people? Am I from a different
generation or are we loosing it how to behave? I see it everywhere, trolls in
social media, people at grocery stores. Why can’t we be nice to each other
anymore? Or is it just me who takes even the smallest thing and makes it a
mountain? Because we have only so much exposure to people these days past six
months.
Anyways, I just write and let it out, the girl reduced the
volume and I got what I wanted, does it matter the kind of face she puts up
when interacting with others? Hah!
Monday, June 8, 2020
Ramadan 2020
When I started writing this blog before Eid, I had it titled 'the not so Eid, Eid' but never can Eid lose its charm of being a special day, if you perform the Eid prayers or not, this year was no different, I celebrated with my sister, made Biryani and sheer khurma. Though my heart went out to a lot of people who couldn't celebrate because they lost their loved ones due to COVID, plane crash in Pakistan etc.. May Allah forgive us for all the wrong we have been doing and ease our sufferings in the coming time this year.